What would I  do without my ride or die little black dress. Every girl has her favorite right? Mine is simple, body hugging and under $15 from the GOAT Forever 21. I love it because its classic and stretchy and always makes me feel like a smoke show, giving me a little extra layer of magic we call confidence. And when I pair it with this rose embroidered denim jacket I fall head over heels. It's the perfect mix of casual and sexy that always keeps me coming back for more.

But if I'm being honest, and since me and you are friends I feel like I can be, I've been sort of lacking in the confidence department here lately. Why? Two words: weight gain. Yup. That age old problem that I know every one of us has dealt with a time or two. But I promise I'm not here to complain about it, because I already have my southern booty back in the gym. 

No, I brought it up because even though I've been secretly feeling like this for a few weeks, when I put on this outfit I forget about those insecurities. Isn't it funny how fashion does that? Clothes become your armor. I suddenly sit my shoulders back and hold my head a little higher because HELLO curves and confidence. Insert hair flip and all of that. 

So if you're feeling down and out slip on your favorite outfit, put some lipstick on and do some laps in your living room. Whatever helps bring that magic out honey cause I promise you its in there even on days when it doesn't feel like it.


 Little Black Dress (similar and similar) |  Denim Jacket







 Little Black Dress (similar and similar) |  Denim Jacket

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I don't know about you but October is FLYING by! Seriously, it's almost like I blinked and here we are; fall is in full swing, pumpkin spice is flowing freer than water and the holidays are right around the corner.

I know I've been absent both here and on social because the evolution of me trying to get my life together hit real hard this month, particularly after I wrote THIS POST on learning to push past fear. So I've been dreaming and planning and scheming and I'm finally feeling peace I haven't had in a long time. What can I say, sometime a break and self reflection is necessary so you don't turn into a crazy person, at least it is for me.

So here's a quick and dirty life update:
  • I started back in the gym. I stopped being consistent after vacation and gained back every single pound that I lost, of course. So now I'm back on the grind!
  • I'm visiting LA in January and I am so excited! I've never been that far west before so if you've ever been and have suggestions on where to eat, explore and play drop me a comment!
  • I'm singing in this musical review at UofL next month! For those of you that don't know me personally, I use to act and sing religiously growing up but I stopped about 5 years ago. After writing "The Other Side of Fear" I decided that I really wanted to get back into exploring my creative/artistic side and this showcase was just the ticket. If you live in Louisville I'll share details on the when and where once we get a little closer.

Anyways let's talk fall fashion shall we! I LIVE for a good sweater dress because wearing them means I don't have to wear a jacket and I don't have to wear pants #WinWin! This one is from Nordstrom Rack is super comfy and I'm obsessed with the distressed details on the side. It also falls longer in the back which is super convenient. And its under $40!

But the star of this outfit are hands down these fringe heels! They're just so different from anything I have in my closet and they're so comfy!! I know they're not traditional fall shoes but I'm going to get as much wear out of them as I can before open toed shoes become a no go.

 
Dress  |  Shoes (similar under $40) |  Bag (similar and similar)

 
 



 
Dress  |  Shoes (similar under $40) |  Bag (similar and similar)





If you know me in real life then you know that Thursday's are sacred in my house. I do not play about my TGIT (Grey's Anatomy, Scandal and How to Get Away With Murder) so that means on this special night each week you can find me surrounded by wine (duh) and lots and lots of snacks; probably freaking out because of Shonda Rhimes and her brilliance! You know, typical Morgan stuff.

This Thursday is especially sacred because the final season of Scandal premiers and I can't even know what to say about it ya'll. I'm one of those people that gets WAY too emotionally invested in the lives of fictional characters so I go through a lot on Thursday nights. Between the live tweeting and the not breathing due to excitement I am never prepared for what comes my way. I'm also just going to come out and say that if Fitz  and Olivia don't end up together I'm not going to be okay. Like, I might need to be resuscitated....but I digress. I am not here to share all of the many ways I hope Scandal ends. I'm here to talk about the good things in life: celebrating with friends and food.

I knew I wanted to host all my friends to celebrate TGIT so naturally I wanted to share all of that with you! So today's post is sharing all my tips and tricks for hosting the perfect TGIT party.

Set The Atmosphere
For me, that means fresh flowers and fall scents. Super easy. I've also made sure I have enough pillows, chairs and blankets for everyone just in case.

It's All About The Food
Let's be honest, the food is the centerpiece of every party so I was excited to hit up Pinterest to help me plan this portion of the shindig. I knew I wanted the food to represent TGIT so I decided on popcorn/snacks and this beautiful meat and cheese board!

For this party, doing snacks was eaiser than planning an actual meal because of the time! So if you're planning your own TGIT party I would stick to the simple stuff and then if everyone is food hungry opt to order pizza or Chinese when everyone arrives. That way you're not over buying all this stuff and people can actually eat what they want!

.....And The Wine
The second reason we all watch TGIT is to partake in 3 hours of wine drinking. Naturally. So I picked up a few bottles of my favorite reds and whites but I've also asked each of the girls to bring their favorite bottle of wine when they come. That way hopefully everyone can try a new type of wine and no one person is buying all the alcohol.

Invite Everyone
No I don't mean invite literally every person you know ha! I just mean that for me it's easier to invite a mix of my girlfriends to stuff like this because its chill and so easy to bond over good TV and great wine. Some of my friends have watched every episode of every TGIT show, some have not even seen 5 minutes of any episode. Some I know from school, others from work or random chance meetings and some of these girls have never met each other before! My point is that I love pulling together my friends from every corner of my life in hopes that they make a new friend too.

And that's all I have for ya'll today! I hope you enjoyed the post. Grab a glass of wine with me and my girls tonight as we enjoy the TGIT. I also LIVE for a good live tweet so follow me on the Twitter: @mpaige_x is my username!

Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

Those words...lumped together in a sentence like that kinda make your heart jump don't they? At least that's the way I feel when I read them...like someone wrote those eleven words just for me.

I think my reaction is due to the fact that I'm currently going through this internal struggle I like to call the "is it worth it to chase my dreams" conflict. You know, that feeling you can't shake, that tug at you're heart that you're suppose to be doing something more, chasing something greater, stepping out on faith in some way shape or form. I feel like that everyday ya'll. This overwhelming inescapable sense of conviction...yeah that's the word. I feel hella convicted reading that quote.

Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

I think most people ignore that feeling if I'm being honest. That or they just don't have the desire for more, but I think most of us tuck that little emotion away deep down inside us and go on living our lives because it's easier. It's easier to dismiss our dreams than to stare them in the face and admit to wanting them. More than we want to feel comfortable. More than the fear that is holding us back....

For me that fear of "chasing my dreams" has always been tricky and twofold:

1. I'm afraid that I'm not good enough. That I'm not talented enough to achieve my dreams. That I'm wasting time because I should have tried harder when I was younger, when there was less at risk.

2. I'm afraid that any success I might achieve will be underserving because of mistakes that I've made in the past. Big, small, accidental or intentional; I feel like my mistakes define me. Which is a dangerous burden to hold onto, chasing dreams or not. But reality 101 in my life is that I'm hard on myself.

So for years I've been going through life, with fear #1 and fear #2 all up on my back, suddenly getting a small taste of that "this is what you're suppose to be doing" feeling, letting fear talk me out of it, pushing that feeling down deep and then continuing with life as usual. And around and around and around in that circle I went for 10 years. Turns out running from the things you love is exhausting AF. Especially when I don't HAVE to be running, I could surrender and let it all go like Elsa because....

Everything I've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. 


So why am I sharing this with you? Great question. For one, I low key needed to get it off my chest for my own sanity but I also know that on some level we all deal with issues like this. So I wrote this post to let you know that you are not alone. Whatever your fear is and whatever happiness or fulfillment lies on the other side of it....you're not alone in wanting to satisfy your dream to obtain it.  
 
I also wanted to share some things that are slowly helping me to get out of my own way and face the fear:
1. Make a list of 5 things you would do if you knew you wouldn't fail. AKA write down your dreams.
So I know this is corny but give me a minute to explain. For me it's easier to get to the quick and dirty of what I want by making a short list and then start taking steps towards those goals. They seem less scary when I break them down plus it helps give me a simpler place to start. 
 
2. Research people who fearlessly chase their own dreams/people you look up to in whatever you want to do.
For me that means reading lots of #GirlBoss books.  I'm currently reading Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat, Pray, Love and I'm re-reading A Year Of Yes by THE QUEEN Shonda Rhimes and I am in heaven. I've always been drawn to women who say f-it and dive head first after the things they want in life! It makes me braver and I don't know why it helps knowing that someone else started where I am, but it always does.
 
3. Show yourself some grace.
These things don't happen overnight. As much as my Gemini brain would LOVE for them to, it doesn't work like that. So everyday I have learned to try and show myself a little more grace. As long as I am doing SOMETHING to move me closer to my goals then I have to count that as a win. Same goes for you girlfriend. Be a little nicer to yourself okay.
 
Sorry for the length of today's post. Claps for you if you made it to the end! Anyways I hope this helps or was relatable for you in some way....see you tomorrow! 
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