So, I'm really excited about this post. Ya'll remember yesterday when I said I was switching things up around here....well this is change numero uno.
A new series, that I promise to stick with!
Twenty Something Tuesday is one of those ideas I had one day while randomly running through my blogroll. One thing I love about this industry is being able to hear from so many versatile women on a daily basis! Everyone has a different story/viewpoint to share with the world.
This realization got me thinking that it would be cool to set aside a place here on MGC to share advice for us twenty somethings by twenty somethings from all over the country. Fashion/beauty tips, advice on dealing with family, boys, bosses....nothing is off limits.
I reached out to some of my favorite bloggers and here we are! The first #TST! Let's do this!
Tyece Wilkins from
Twenties Unscripted has some great advice for ya'll today. Made my anxious self a little calmer about this decade of life.....enjoy!
I’ve been writing about being in my
twenties for almost three years now, so I should have something to say…right?
I should have some wisdom to impart, some gem I picked up along the way, some
advice to cascade down to those coming up behind me. I have a blog called
Twenties Unscripted. TWENTIES Unscripted. Yet, when given the topic of being a
twenty-something to guide my writing, I draw a complete and total blank.
I thought I would write about turning 25, but I shot that down.
I thought I could write about appreciating the moment and not
always stressing over the future, but that felt too trite.
Maybe it’s because despite my blog’s
moniker, I stopped writing about being a twenty-something awhile ago. Instead,
I continued writing and I just happened to be a twenty-something. My blog’s
tagline is a “sincere, sassy and sometimes smart-assy take on growing up” but
now I am just growing up and I sincerely hope the work I produce reflects that.
Maybe I am rambling through this shitter of an intro to say that
there is not anything new under the sun about being a twenty-something. The
times change and the trends change, but the tornado stays the same. We’re
not even done basking in our newly-graduated glow before we’re
hurled into the tornado of all the things we worked so hard for and thought we
wanted.
In Amy Poehler’s “Yes Please” she
writes about the mistake of being a writer in the middle of writing a book and
asking published writers for advice.
“I asked
people who have already finished
books for advice, which is akin to asking a mother with a four-year-old what
childbirth is like. All the edges have been rounded and they have forgotten the
pain.”
In many ways, anything I could say about ripe post-grad life is
just like being that published writer or seasoned mother–my edges have been
rounded and I have (gladly) forgotten the pain. I fell into a conversation
awhile ago with a girl finishing her last semester in college. When she told me
she was nervous about graduating, it took a second for that sense of
pre-graduation jitters to come back to me. I forgot what it’s
like for adulthood to barricade itself right in front of you. I’ve
been in the tornado for far too long. I’ve been running on the hamster wheel,
paying off debt, racking up some more and trying to go to bed at a decent hour
every night. I’ve been excited for payday and resentful of rent day. I’ve
been solidifying friendships, saying goodbye to others and setting personal
boundaries for my time and energy. I’ve been too lazy to date, too
frustrated to date, too busy to date, too full of excuses to date. I’ve
been scurrying away trying to build an empire and praying that it’s
on a firm foundation. I’ve been living in that damn tornado.
I don’t know where you are in your own
twenty-something journey. I don’t know if you just started, are
halfway there or are near the finish line headed into a new decade. Whatever
your residence is on this 10-year bizarre spectrum, I say to let the tornado take
you in; you’ll be surprised how beautiful and fulfilling it is to learn
how to function in the right kind of chaos. A storm of your own becoming, a
mess of your evolution, a funnel of your growing up is a beautiful tornado in
which to exist.
Tyece Wilkins is the
creator and editor-in-chief of Twenties Unscripted, a blog for millennial
women. She enjoys drinking red
wine, reading, getting entrenched in long conversations with friends and
creating customized things that she doesn’t need on Zazzle.
